purpose

Meaning of Life…

Why you should always ask why

I’ve been asked on several occasions what is the meaning of life??? Well I’ll tell you… The meaning of life is whatever you decide it is for you. There is no purpose or value that is greater than your own and that goes for everyone. So what is the meaning of life for me? To give more than I take and to make a difference in some ones life other than my own. To feel worthy of the life I was given by being significant to the ones around me. It’s not them that gives my life meaning or purpose but without them I can’t say I’d have much of one, It is the feeling I get from my significance in their life that brings me joy and happiness. It is also what makes me want to do and be better.

To become fulfilled and have inner peace you need acceptance. Not from others but from yourself. If you cannot accept you for who you are you can never be happy or fulfilled nor find peace within. If it is happiness you are looking for then you will be disappointed for most of your life. Don’t want tomorrow when you haven’t lived today, it will always leave you empty and awaiting what you think you want. I mean once you have what you think you want then what?

It’s easy to get wrapped up in society and the world around you, influence and expectations of others, but you can’t forget who you are or why. Personally I like to learn any and all things and wake up everyday knowing that I am ignorant. For most it would be hard to say “I’m ignorant” and accept that to be true because egotistically you feel like you are not dumb. Indeed you are, you can not possibly know what you don’t know and what we don’t know is far greater than what we do know. So keeping the state of mind that knows I have much to learn, keeps me open to possibilities and knowledge.

We never learn if we already know it all and that’s why I get up knowing today I may know more than I did yesterday but there is far more that I don’t. This helps me grow because I am more open to others opinions and beliefs. Your meaning of life has everything to do with interpretation and perception on things and your environment has every influence on what you think and believe. You perceive things in your own way and that forms your own meaning of life. It can mean whatever you want it to, your not limited by a belief, because you can always choose to believe something different. One way or another doesn’t have to be the only way of living or believing.

Having a purpose in life is what some would say gives their life meaning. Having purpose is more fulfilling as well and gives you a reason for living and doing the things you do. Most people have a hard time finding their purpose or place in this world and that’s because they are looking for something although they don’t know what. When you are looking for something you usually miss what’s right in front of you and your purpose usually comes from what’s right in front of you. To make this a little more insightful, it goes back to interpretation and perception, what you choose to see is what keeps you where you are or allows you to grow. If you are open to different interpretations or perceptions then you can expand your world view and also expand your own possibilities.

“You’ll never find yourself by being wrapped up in someone else”
Colleen Hoover

Everyone sees their purpose as different when indeed it is all for the greater good. The greater good being your own beliefs and perception. What you believe is your purpose is based on what you see and how you see it. However you have to stop and ask yourself is it your greater good or does it contribute to the greater good of humanity? Is what you do to work towards your purpose really a purpose that the fellow man can benefit from in a progressive way? Having a purpose is what gives your life meaning and everyone’s is different based on perceptions and belief systems, which as we’ve discussed can be changed as we progress.

Perception Or Deception

Is what you know your own perception or is it someone else’s expectations or beliefs that you’ve incorporated into your own B.S. (belief system)? The concepts in which you’ve seen, heard and learned from have indeed formed your own B.S or (belief system). So in order to find your own purpose and develop your own perception of things you have to be able to make sense of what you believe. Ask yourself is what I believe something that makes sense? If so then how? If not then why do you believe it? If you find yourself wondering why you ever believed something that you now discover doesn’t make sense chances are it’s because it was always someone else’s B.S that you never questioned.

Knowing that you can now choose to believe something else that makes sense to you. Now you have a different perception and interpretation of what is and what can be so you can develop your own B.S. in a way that helps you to find your own purpose in life and know that it is your own and not someone else’s. We lie to ourselves all the time trying to make sense of what we believe because we don’t understand that we can change that belief to fit our own perception not the other way around. You can’t force yourself to believe something unless you know why you believe it and if it makes sense to you.

Setting Intentions 101

How setting intentions means progress!

Setting an intention gives you direction, it gives you a destination. Most of the time we come up with a plan just to not have a general direction to drive the plan towards success, because we forgot to set an intention. Setting an intention is practically like having an obtainable goal that’s already done. Once an intention is set, it is what determines the outcome of the situation. That’s how your brain interprets it anyway.. As an intention it becomes an inevitable event that your determination will drive forward.

I like to set two intentions for the day, so I swap between personal, business and relationships, and rotate the three . This way, it balances the scales and I stay on top of my life in every aspect. With intentions set, I have complete and total control over my thoughts and feelings for the day. Having that inevitable goal to reach keeps me on track throughout my day. I am left feeling more fulfilled and confident as well as a sense of accomplishment. The feeling of doing something worth your time is so satisfying.

Do you find yourself unfulfilled?

I’ve found that on days that I don’t have an intention for that day, I’m not as productive. That’s mostly due to the fact that I have no end goal to reach, no intention means no actual advancement throughout my day. Which is fine every now and then but it will leave you feeling a bit insignificant on some days. I don’t know about you but I like to feel important or a sense of purpose. I try to spend my time and efforts valuably so that I feel like my life has a significant meaning even if only to myself. I don’t need others to validate me however others need to feel validated, and I enjoy putting a smile on someones face even if that’s all I do. Some sense of fulfillment is necessary and to reach fulfillment you really do need to set an intention.

What is an intention you have for yourself?

So what are some things you know you been putting off? Or maybe just an outcome you want to happen at the end of your day? Take some time to reflect on your own wants and needs and try setting an intention every morning and your mind will be put to work looking for ways of it happening. Let me know in the comments what intentions did you set and how long u until you achieve this goal?

Living with Addiction

Why is it so hard to give ourselves what we need?

There are lots of people living with addiction. Some don’t know they are addicts, others just ignore it and try to lie to themselves, then there are the ones much like myself that fight it everyday. Living with addiction and knowing that at any moment’s notice that urge can overtake you if you let it. That has been the hardest thing to take control of. The one thing that is destroying you is the hardest thing to let go of. It has been hard to face myself and know that I deserve better, my daughter deserves better. I look at her and there are days when I just don’t feel strong enough for her. When I don’t feel good enough to keep fighting, those are the most difficult days for me. It’s so easy to forget about my life for just a moment and relieve all that stress and tension and just give in. However I realize that it takes a much stronger me to pull myself up and keep fighting.

It is not easy nor does it happen fast but if you can just give yourself the credit you deserve and stay strong then things are bound to get better. This is just a test to see if you’re ready for better things. Well are you? Good things don’t come to those who wait, good things come to those that are ready for good things. Fighting is much harder than giving in but it is so worth it. You are so worth it! Facing those demons is scary and it’s not easy, but the things that don’t come easy are the things in life that are worth fighting for. I can’t tell you where I’ll end up at times because the road is dark and weary, but I do know that through the cloud that is addiction it will be ok and so will you.

You are not alone, no matter how alone you feel there is someone that sees your worth and wants to pull you out of those murky waters. Take that hand and swallow your pride, shame and guilt and take the helping hand. It takes that first step up to get you on your feet again. Although that first step is the hardest one to take you don’t have to do it alone. You asked for strength and got a task that feels impossible but will make you stronger in the end for having fought for yourself and your freedom. Just know that you are valuable and you have a greater purpose even if you haven’t found it yet. Good things are coming but only if you are willing to accept them once they arrive. Keep fighting and you will prevail.

Core Values

So what are core values and why are they so important?

Core values are what you believe, and they represent a person’s highest priorities. They are traits or qualities within all of us that make us unique. Some examples of pretty common core values are:

Respect
Integrity
Honor
Loyalty
Responsibility
Courage
Honesty
Love
Dignity

You can set a good example just by having the most important core values and actually living by those values. It allows you and others a smoother friendship as well as helps you feel like a good person. Having core values is especially important when you have kids. As parents we want better for our kids and teaching them the fundamental core values and meaning of those values will only benefit both parent and child. There are different kinds of values, such as;

Personal Values – Behavioral and Traits:

Personal Values – Rights and Causes

Life Values – Core Values

As a race, we are beginning to ask questions, more powerful and incisive questions about who we are and why are we here. These questions are both taking us down a dark rabbit hole of uncertainty and fear – as well as helping us ascend into the light.
It’s a time of deep introspection and exploration into the very nature of who we are as individuals and as a race. How we choose to represent ourselves in this life and in the universe, as well as an investigation into exactly how deep the rabbit hole goes in societal terms. What has brought us to this point of the abyss or ascension?

The problem for each and everyone of us is a simple question, that will determine the future of the human race. The most important question of our lives, and it’s only now
that we get to ask it of ourselves in earnest… Can we accept that we can be more than we are? This is a difficult personal question for all of us to answer, as by association this means we’ve been less than we could have been — and thus we are less than we can be.
Egotistically, this is very difficult to accept for most people in an actionable way, as illusory superiority twists our perspective reality away from our potential.

So set in our ways of personal limitation and identity are we, that we deny to ourselves our birthright of what the true nature of freedom is. The freedom to explore ourselves and the
experience of life, beyond what we’ve been conditioned to or suppressed by. Unfortunately, society psychologically lobotomizes people (including you and me) so they conform to its structures of certainty and behaviour to serve its energetic agenda.

It does this to us from around the age of five in many ways that become part of our identities, so we lose exactly who we really are and forget our potential in terms
of our capacity to live in a state of joy, peace, curiosity, love and wonderment.

Consequently, we fall asleep, and in that slumber we are reluctant to wake as our minds languish in a state of unconscious conformity to a world that makes no sense,
but asks us to live in non-sense and inversion. For some, they thank their lucky stars for their mental prisons, that allow them to navigate a world with pain and suffering inside and outside, so long as they don’t see it in front of them — as it makes them uncomfortable — it reminds them on a very deep level of what they’ve traded in for the addiction to having and not being.

Meaning, Purpose and Destiny

In this limited way, they can move within an inauthentic social identity avatar that is primarily restrictive and self-serving, unconsciously creating their projected reality through the words and thoughts of their daily lives. Thus the mind becomes a prison, a place of security and a sense of certainty — that simply cannot look beyond the shores of what we call an “island of certainty in the sea of eternity”. In this state, we unconsciously choose to look the other way, and deny that there is anything more to our existence.

The inverted societies we live within happily confirm this state of ignorance in every way possible, so we conform to a useful social role and a life that makes no sense beyond being a generator of wealth and an unconscious consumer without the thought of WHY? The why behind the why behind the why behind the why behind the why … and that’s where the core values come into the picture. See if we are grounded by our fundamental core values and live by them without selfish monetary gain, then we’d be a lot happier. I have found that the more aligned with who we are at our core gives us more of a satisfaction. A satisfaction that most people are steadily chasing and are left empty and depressed.

It’s not easy to find your purpose in life and most don’t until later in life if at all. However a bit of soul searching and unplugging from the world while you do it, helps tremendously. We are all to distracted by things that shouldn’t matter yet somehow we don’t even know how we got here. Before you go out into the world all willie nillie without a plan or strategy in place you should know, that kind of instability will lead you right back to square one every time. Take some time for yourself, find out what you like doing and what you’re good at doing as well as what makes you feel good about yourself. Doing something more with ourselves fills a void that keeps us from spiraling into darkness and depression.

Having more isn’t necessarily being more…..